7 posts from January 2008

How do you stay organized? 
Submitted by devillibrarian. 

I'm a Virgo. Period.

Do you think real love can last throughout any distance, or will long distance end most relationships? 
Submitted by Miss Joy.

Fuck you. Eat shit. Die a horrible death so I can piss on your grave, Miss Question Maker.

No.

Love is never enough.

When I'm in a tumble of sorts I say to myself "What would Andrew W.K. do?" and then things become clear. I have lived this way since meeting him back in May at Bamboozle and I find it to be helpful, always. Recently, I found myself in a tumble and, again, Andrew had perfect timing and made the following post on his MySpace.

He did not write this letter to me, but he could have. It's all the same.

Dear Andrew,

I don't know who else to turn to at this point. You are the one who pointed me in the direction of living my life positively and to live each day like it's my best.  So, I feel like only you can help me steer myself right when I feel this low.

I've been manipulated and crushed by who I believe is the love of my life. It's been a long journey and a long spiral downward, and now I've been thrown to the gutter and replaced almost immediately.  I feel so hurt and vulnerable, especially vulnerable.  I feel so weak.  Feelin this exposed and vulnerable, and the only thing I can think of to make the pain go away is to turn into the peson I hate, the person I have strived so hard to be the opposite of.  I don't want to become this person, but the defense mechanisms inside me keep pushing me towards those demons. This person I feel like becoming wouldn't feel this pain, wouldn't be this vulnerable, but would be everything I am against being. I need guidance.

Sincerely,
Steven

 

Dear Steven,

I understand what you're feeling and how difficult it must have been to go through this.  Here are my recommendations, based on personal experience:

1. Take responsibility:
First, I want to remind you that while I may have had a hand in pointing you towards positive directions, it was YOU who took action and made the decision to live your life in a way that you believed in.  It was also YOU who discovered me and took the time to consider the feelings and ideas I expressed.  Even though you may have been feeling as though you're a victim, taking responsibility for your all asepcts and events in your life, even seemingly random situations you find yourself in (including the actions of others), is a way to empower yourself and realize that it's all up to YOU - every part of your life - starting with how you feel right now.  It may seem weird to think that you're responsible for someone else being hurtful or cruel, but the idea is to take away the power from them, and realize that only you decide what to feel.

2. Hold On To Your Integrity:
While it may have been very tempting to drop your beliefs and all the standards you've lived by, you'd really be sacrificing the very source of happiness and joy you've worked so hard to build and stand for.  If we constantly lived our lives based on a fear of death, fear of loss of love, fear of poverty, than most would agree we weren't really living all that well - we might avoid getting hurt, but as a result of all our over protection, we'd be closed off from all the other amazing and exhilarating sensations life has to offer.  If we approached every relationship with distrust, simply because the person might one day betray us, we wouldn't be able to have many meaningful human interactions, romantic or otherwise.

3. Living Life Is Taking Risks:
It's crucial to live life with moments of exposure, vulnerability, and total openness.  That's what I think performing feels like - being in a place of great vulnerability, and potential humiliation, and just GOING for it.  The idea is to ALWAYS throw yourself into life, full boar.  It's a risk to trust people, but that's part of the price we pay for wanting the most out of life - you rarely get something for nothing - you've got to give your entire soul, fearlessly, courageously, and constantly.  Don't "learn" from bad experiences that "people are untrustworthy", or "all women/men are evil" - that sort of confusion and fear only guides us down ever-darker roads.

If someone betrays your trust, or takes advantage of your goodwill, it's not time to compromise your integrity by giving in to their bad attitude!  It's time to hold on to your feelings of goodness and conviction in your love of life more than ever.  Otherwise, what would we do?  Go through our days constantly suspicious, bitter, and assuming most people are bad?  Some people have lived like this, and I'll bet they didn't have much fun. 

4. Believe That All People Are Good:
It's clear to me that you want to feel differently than you do right now, so take a deep breath, and confirm your highest potential.  Choose to blindly trust all that you want in life, and firmly believe that all people are good.  Why?  Because we believe WE are good, and what we believe about ourselves, we believe about others.  Even if someone else has acted in a way that we think isn't good, we believe that deep inside, they are good, and the layers of their own confusion (much like the potential we have), may have lead them to behave in a way we feel is lesser.  But we forgive them, and we trust that we weren't meant to interact with them anymore.  Take what good you can from the WHOLE of your experience with that person, cherish the good memories and the energy you devoted to the relationship, and move on towards new ones.  Who KNOWS what will come next?

I hope these ideas help.  I've absolutely no doubt you're already very familiar with all of them - sometimes it's been helpful to be reminded of the obvious.  The most intrinsic foundations of our souls have often been the easiest to overlook, because we stand upon the groundwork of our beliefs every day.  And much like the sidewalk and the Earth and roads can be easy to take for granted, they allow us to move towards our desires with great ease, and give us the solid ground we base our daily perspective on. 

Look around, be aware, breathe deep, and remember that our WHOLE LIFE is in front of us, and all we have is possibility!  As long as we believe that to be true, it will be for us.  Use the experience you've just had to empower you more than ever before.  Take each one of those painful feelings and reinterpret it as proof that you're not going to give in and you're getting better every minute.  Spend time smiling and laughing as much as possible - listen to music that makes you feel good - and be easy on yourself when if comes to your grieving.  The fact that you care about what happened to your relationship is further testament that you're not trying to blow it off, or act as if you never cared, just to protect your ego.  When you give your all, the pain can be greater, but it's PROOF that you're living ALL THE WAY - what other way is there?

With love,
Andrew W.K.

This may not be totally work safe... but it's funny.

1. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Random
The first article title on the page is the name of your band.

2. www.quotationspage.com/random.php3
The last four words of the very last quote is the title of your album.

3. www.flickr.com/explore/interesting/7days/
The third picture, no matter what it is, will be your album cover.

(tag it: Cd Cover Meme)

ganked from: www.flickr.com/photos/halcyon

I hate you. I hate all of you. I think you all fucking suck and I want you to die a miserable death.

I do not give a shit that you are "bored at work" or "alone in (your) office". I don't want to know about your cock. I have no interest in your 10 inch (really 3 inch) pecker. I'm not going to tell you how I shave my cunt and I am certainly not about to put various objects up it for your pleasure. I'd rather pluck out every hair on my body, one at a time, than talk to your sorry ass.

Don't "ASL" me because I won't answer. If you can find my fucking screen name, then you can find my fucking age and location. The opening line "wanna chat?" will be greeted with a hearty "fuck off". I'm not friendly. I'm not social. I'm not new to the god damned internet. Lines don't work on me. I don't want to be bothered with your teenage bullshit. I'm not online to hook up. I will not give you a blow job in a Wawa parking lot. I don't want anything to fucking do with you.

Yes, I know I look younger than I am. Don't tell me I'm hot, it's meaningless. No, I don't want to see your half-nude-found-on-myspace-so-it-isn't-even-you photo.And NO! I will not block my IM's just because you shitheads have no idea how to leave someone alone who clearly isn't interested in you. I should be able to have my IM's wide open so people with an actual BRAIN can IM me whenever they want.

If you don't know if you're one of the above types of shitheads, I have a list of things you should ask yourself before deciding to pop "Melting Halo" into that AIM box:

• Do you currently have your cock in your hand?
• Did you just watch some porn and are now looking to talk to "hot chicks on the internet"?
• Is your favorite movie Napoleon Dynamite?
• Are you bald?
• Are you under the age of 18?
• Have you ever had a mullet?
• If you are a male (and NOT gay), do you like to wear women's underwear?
• Did you see a picture of my niece and think she's hot?
• Did you see a picture of my niece and think she's me?
• Does "To Catch A Predator" scare the shit out of you?
• Did you vote for Bush?
• Are you a racist?
• Are you a homophobe?
• Do you believe every. single. word. of the Bible?
• Are you from Japan?
• Have you ever been referred to as a "thug" by anyone?
• Do you love Comic Sans?
• Was the last woman you saw in real life your mom when she brought a PB&J to your basement bedroom?
• Do you think Myspace is fucking "awesome" and "addicting"?
• Right now, are you wondering what I'm wearing?
• Can I stomp on your balls while wearing four inch platform shoes?

If you answered yes to even one single question then you should just leave me alone or be prepared to have your ass handed to you.

Love,
Christine

P.S. This rant has nothing to do with any dear Voxers out there whom I love. This rant is for the ass grabbers who have no idea how to talk to a human. It's for the dickheads who would never talk to a woman in real life the way they do on the internet. They make me completely sick.

It's been an Andrew-tastic week and so the love should be shared and frankly, it doesn't get much more fun than this guy.

As an added bonus, I uploaded the videos from the Dresden Dolls show that I went to on Friday. The rest are on my Youtube.